The Healing Power of Music

December 9th, 2009

>кухниst returned from an overnight trip with my sister Susan to the North Carolina mountains. It was our Christmas gift to each other so for two short days we could get away from the stress, cares and worries of our lives. As we drove up we talked about illness and financial distress and missing Mom and Dad. Mom died 8 years ago. Dad died 4 years ago. Then I turned off on the wrong interstate exit and we found ourselves at the gateway to The Cove, a retreat center founded by Billy and Ruth Graham.
We hadn’t planned on visiting there, but got a visitor’s pass and went to the visitor’s center in the chapel. It was a cold December Monday and we were the only visitors. Nevertheless, the cheerful volunteer tour guide showed us around and we marveled at the gorgeous winter sun being admitted to the chapel through the leafless trees on the mountainside. It seemed to set the beautiful polished heart pine floors into glorious flame and the whole chapel seemed to glow.
Our guide took us up front and told us how they’d acquired the grand piano. Then she asked, “Do either of you play the piano?”
Susan said wistfully, “I used to play. I haven’t played in a long time, so I wouldn’t be very good.”
We exchanged an uneasy glance, both remembering how the piano Susan had inherited from our girlhood home had burned up in her house fire four years earlier. I remembered seeing the metal piano strings in the ashes. That was all that had been left of the piano. Susan hadn’t been able to replace it. And I remembered how we’d gather around that old piano and Dad would get out his ancient violin from his high school days and we’d sing Christmas carols together. Dad’s violin had burned up in the fire, too.
The guide went on, “There’s plenty of music in the piano bench. And here’s a hymnal.”
I found myself saying, “Susan, play something for us.”
She sat down in front of the grand piano in the empty chapel and thumbed to the hymnal to “Silent Night.” I sank down into a seat on a front pew as the beautiful strains of “Silent Night” rose from the open sounding board and echoed off the polished floor. Susan swayed gracefully as she played and I felt tears well up in my eyes. It was one of God’s perfect moments.
The vibrations of the piano strings ceased and Susan got up from the piano bench and the guide said how beautiful that had been. The beautiful piano in the empty sanctuary had come to life under Susan’s touch. And we had come to life because of its music.

Karen Barber
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Our Empty Thanksgiving Table

November 27th, 2009

Our table was completely empty this Thanksgiving. We had planned on a family dinner here in our dining room for 8 – Gordon and myself, our three sons, our daughter-in-law, our new baby granddaughter and a friend. We cancelled Thanksgiving dinner at 10 AM on Thanksgiving Day, right when I had been expecting to put the turkey in the oven.

At 3 AM on Thanksgiving morning our 19 year old son John, just in from college, developed abdominal pain so bad that Gordon took him to the emergency room. He was admitted to the hospital. It turns out he has a place in his small intestines that’s inflamed and infected. Don’t know why. It just happened. So they put him on IVs and started pumping him with antibiotics and talked about doing surgery. That’s when I called off Thanksgiving dinner.

John was opposed to surgery because the doctor estimated a 2 week recovery time. The next two weeks are full of projects and exams that will cap off his whole semester of studies. We prayed and reassured him. And the doctor took a “wait and see” approach to the surgery, giving him 24 hours to see if things improved.

Gordon and I ate Thanksgiving dinner at a McDonald’s in the hospital. I had a salad and Gordon had a double cheese burger. Back in the hospital room, John had a few ice chips.

Strangely enough, even with cheeseburgers and fast food salads and ice chips, Thanksgiving still happened. We were grateful that John was home and not off at college when he got sick. We couldn’t help but be grateful for the emergency room doctor who was alert enough to see that John really needed help. For the medicines that can fight infections. For the medical staff who spent Thanksgiving working. Even for that awful stuff you swallow so they can see what’s going in your stomach.

As I rode down the hospital elevator to go home, two men in rough laborer’s clothes rode down with me. I smiled and said, “Happy Thanksgiving. And they responded with a hearty “Happy Thanksgiving” back. And I knew that Thanksgiving can happen anywhere.
Even in a hospital elevator amongst strangers.

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Avoiding Bad Shoe Days

November 19th, 2009

Here’s a picture of my morning prayer walk shoes. Do you think it might be time to retire them?

I’m not fussy about the stains on them, but I know it’s time for new prayer shoes when the material on top starts tearing up. When that happens and I walk down the grassy bank to the pond for a moment of meditation, my feet get soaking wet from the dew, or the left-over rain water or from the sprinkler water on the grass. I end up with wet toes.

Someone a few years back coined the phrase “bad hair day” but I believe that a bad shoe day is ten times worse than a bad hair day. That’s because bad hair is only cosmetic. Bad shoes can leave you limping and blistered and plain worn out and unable to get anything done.

One of the worst shoe days I ever had was on a mission trip to Honduras. I had worn a former set of prayer shoes in equally deplorable condition because of the muck and mire of the rural Honduras village where the nearest paved road was 50 miles away and where cattle and horses and chickens wander free. Why wear new shoes that might get ruined? Unfortunately, my old prayer shoes decided to literally give up their soles in the middle of a work project. The sole completely ripped off of the tops of the shoes. Luckily, the guys on the team had duct tape. I wrapped duct tape around the nose of my shoes and the soles and limped along for the rest of the week. It proved very amusing to the villagers.

Lately I’ve been learning how important it is to not be caught off guard with fear and distractions when you’re trying to get things done in a new ministry. I’ve been consciously praying Ephesians 6:13-18 where it tells us to put on the whole armor of God so we’ll be able to stand our ground. It tells us to have our feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. That’s great advice! Shoes should be something you should be able to forget you have on. They should be well fitted. Simply having them on makes you ready for action. And good shoes bring peace of mind when you’re out walking around in muck.

Have you put on a good pair of prayer shoes today?

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A Salute to My Veterans – My Father, My Husband and My Sons

November 11th, 2009

I found myself getting a little emotional today on Veteran’s Day. That’s because veterans aren’t an anonymous group of strong men marching in a parade. They are my father, my husband and my sons.

My late father enlisted in the Navy during World War II. He certainly wasn’t the soldier or even the sailor type. He was a Minnesota boy who got violently seasick on the transport ship taking him to his duty station in the Pacific on a supply base in the Easter Islands. He worked in a Quonset hut typing supply orders. He wasn’t very good at that either, but he was a dependable worker. The climate was steamy. He told me that they had to keep an electric light bulb burning in their foot locker to keep the leather on their shoes from getting moldy.

Before I met my husband Gordon, he served in the Army for two years in the Vietnam War Era. He was based in Okinawa, half a world away from his home in North Carolina, doing administrative work helping run the base. Our oldest son, Jeff, served as an engineer in the Air Force for four years in Colorado Springs.

Our middle son Chris was graduating from college with an Army R.O.T.C. scholarship when the Iraq War began. He was trained in field artillery and stationed at Ft. Bragg, N.C. He went “Airborne” and became a paratrooper, learning how to jump out of planes at low altitudes in full gear.

We put a huge yellow bow on the pine tree out front here at home when he served in Afghanistan for 4 months. Later Chris was deployed to Iraq for 18 months and we put up the same yellow bow. It was a prayer anchor that I passed every morning on my prayer walk on my way down the driveway. It was a true lesson in trust and dependence on God to have a son in so far away in harm’s way.

When Chris first arrived in Iraq, he was a platoon leader, leading his men out on missions “outside the wire” in hostile territory. He earned the Bronze Star. What a joy it was to finally take down the old yellow bow, full of pines needles and faded and frayed from rain and sun. This is the second Veteran’s Day since Chris has gotten out of the Army. He’s working toward an MBA and is the founder of a website called www.seriousrunning.com I sent him an email today thanking him for his service and telling him how proud I am of him.

Maybe you get a little emotional on Veteran’s Day, too. Out of my four veterans – my father, my husband and my two sons – only one of them has been called upon to fire a rifle in hostile territory. Yet all of them have served well, giving their time and their service. They have set aside their lives of comfort and gone to new and far away places to perform their assigned duties. I am proud and honored that they are and will forever be the brave men in my life.

Lesson from the Triplets on My Vision Walk

November 5th, 2009

I run into the triplets at their school bus stop many mornings on the vision part of my prayer walk. One minute I’m praying for someone with a vision for a comfort blanket ministry and the next minute I’m watching a private reality show starring six-year-old triplets and their sainted mom.

The triplets – two boys and a girl – started out the school year in August in a free-for-all of early morning mayhem as they pushed and jostled and protested, “I was here first!” trying to be first in line at the bus stop. I witnessed some amazing sprints on six year old legs from the garage door up the driveway to the bus stop with school bags bobbing like parachutes on their backs.

On one memorable day I was treated to a perfect ten performance of a defiant child. One little girl and one boy were standing sober as judges at the bus stop while Saint Mom dragged the final little boy up the driveway literally kicking and screaming. He was stiff legged, wailing, “No! I don’t want to go!” On that particular morning I believe I witnessed one of Saint Mom’s finest moments. The school bus pulled up. Kerplunk, Kerplunk. A little girl’s feet hit the high bus steps. Kerplunk, kerplunk. A little boy’s feet hit the high bus steps. Suddenly all sound was sucked out of the triplet who had been kicking and screaming. As he faced the inevitable yawning abyss of the open school bus door he felt his mother’s no-turning-back presence squarely behind him. “Oh,” his face read, “Other children on the bus are watching.” Kerplunk, kerplunk. He got on the bus without a further whimper.

The weather has changed and so have the triplets. Most days they actually walk to the bus stop. They stand in a 1-2-3 line ten feet back from where the bus halts. They do not budge from this spot until Saint Mom declares that the bus is at a complete stop and it is safe for them to file toward the door. Order has slowly been fashioned out of chaos.

I used to think that the triplets were an interruption to my vision prayers, but now I see that they’re really messengers. In my past blogs I mentioned my big vision I’ve been praying for 9 years. Sometimes things seem to be going way too slow and I want to run as fast as I can to get on the bus. Then I get discouraged. Isn’t it my turn to be the very first one in line? Other days, I’m back there kicking and screaming about doing the necessary nuts and bolts work that I hate doing. In the Kingdom of God, just like at bus stops, order and maturity matter. The key is to keep on growing one day and one prayer at a time.

My Morning Vision Walk

October 29th, 2009

In my last blog I told how I have been praying my vision every morning on my daily prayer walk since February 29, 2000. The other morning I was driving off to help take care of my new grandbaby and (of course) happened to have my camera in the car. As I got to the stop sign where I’ve prayed that prayer for so long, the sun was rising and the ground was still wet from rain. I pulled my car over and got out to try and capture the beauty of the scene. Here’s what I saw.

These October days when I’m praying my vision, this stretch of the sidewalk looks very different from this photo. At 7 AM when I reach this spot it’s still quite dark and the last few stars are slowly fading away in the graying sky. I’ve walked this stretch of sidewalk in all seasons, in darkness and sunlight and rain and fog.

There’s something incredibly comforting about giving your prayers their own special spot to thrive and grow and become real along a pathway you often follow. Someday, maybe after I’ve added another ten years to my vision prayer I’ll stand here and say with awe and amazement, “This is where it all began.”
The Sidewalk Where I Pray My Vision

How I Traveled via Prayer to the Future

October 23rd, 2009
First Prayer Igniters Board Meeting

First Prayer Igniters Board Meeting

On my previous blog I wrote about time machines and going back into the past. This week I traveled the opposite direction and journeyed into the strange and mysterious frontier of the future.

My vehicle was a long and involved IRS form for tax exempt status that I needed to fill out for our new nonprofit, Prayer Igniters. Our ministry had its very first board meeting in September. As of yet we have no bank account and no programs running. It should be a cinch to fill out a form for a group that doesn’t have any past and very little in the present to report, right? Wrong. According to the form, we have a future to report!

The form poses oodles of questions like this “Do you or will you undertake fundraising?” If ‘Yes,’ check all the fundraising programs you do or will conduct.” Then they say, “Attach a description of each fundraising activity.” Hmm. And thus the form had me constantly embarking on mental journeys into what we will be doing in 2010 and 2011.

Actually, the IRS didn’t invent traveling into the future. Prayer did. The reason I happened to be filling out a nonprofit application in October of 2009 was because on February 29, 2000 I asked God to give me a mission statement. He gave me these words “The Way of Prayer for Many.” I wasn’t sure what way of prayer I knew that would help anyone else. But I began to pray the vision every day on my prayer walk. I can’t say that much happened for several years, but I kept on praying.

I eventually started speaking on prayer and keeping a log of prayer answers in my journal. Then my elderly father got sick in 2004 and died a year later. It seemed like a huge detour way off my prayer vision route. Only later did I see that Dad’s illness gave me priceless personal experience on how to pray during a crisis and how to pray when things don’t get better.

In 2006 I took a huge step and did a video study series on prayer. All of this time, the nonprofit idea was still completely off my radar screen. It didn’t go “blip” until one spring day in 2008 when I was having lunch with a woman from a huge church. She told me she wished that she could get more people interested in prayer. Bingo! I was meeting my first Prayer Igniter – someone who wanted to light a match to spark interest in prayer but who needed a little help, inspiration and support along the way.

So prayer makes it possible for me to report to the IRS what the future will look like in 2010 and 2011.

This brings us to an interesting question. What will you be doing in the future? In 2010? In 2011? I think I can help you fill in the blanks if you can answer this question. What are you praying as God’s future vision for your life today?

A Time Machine that Really Works!

October 16th, 2009

Recently I was flabbergasted to learn that there’s such a thing as a time machine that works! And believe me, at my age I need one. It all started a few weeks ago when my husband Gordon opened the wrong attachment to an email and his laptop got taken over by a big ugly pop-up message that cried “Threat Warning!” in big red letters. It proclaimed that his computer was infected with nasty sounding viruses and the cure was to click through to a website and pay to get rid of them. This message continuously popped up and smacked Gordon in the eyes with repeated warnings meant to instill fear of cyber mayhem. I could hear his cries of aggravation clear from the other room.

This went on for three weeks. Finally our 19 year old son John arrived home from college and came to the rescue. He sat in front of the TV with Gordon’s computer on his lap and fiddled around a while. “Done,” John said. And the mean pop-up virus was gone.

“How on earth did you do that?” I asked John in amazement.

“Simple. I asked Dad when he first started having the problem, then I went back a few days before that and used the restore function to get the whole system to the way it was before the virus.”

“You can do that?” I asked incredulously.

“Yep,” he said, “On an Apple they call it time machine.”

I was dumbstruck. Finally someone had actually invented a time machine that can restore things back to the way they used to be. Not only is it an electronic version of the Fountain of Youth where you can go back to an earlier time, but it also erases any mistakes you made in the meantime and everything is back in order like you never messed up at all. What good news. Of course the bad news is that this time machine only works in cyberspace, not in real life.

Actually, a long time ago God invented the “restore function” when Jesus came down to earth. The most time defying thing that every happened in history was the resurrection of Jesus after He had been dead and buried for three days. Because of that great miracle, each day we can experience small but meaningful restorations. Maybe they won’t erase our wrinkles or make those angry words we said yesterday disappear, but our lives can still be renewed and rejuvenated. Words that start with the prefix re (meaning “to do again”) offer an array of divine possibilities for time travel. Repentance. Reconciliation. Redemption. Recommitment. Reconsideration. Restitution. Rebirth. And that’s the best news I’ve ever heard.

The whole Barber family last Christmas on computers

The whole Barber family last Christmas on computers

Miracle Answer to Prayer in Afghanistan

October 12th, 2009

On Sunday in the church hallway I asked a friend about her grandson was is serving in Afghanistan. Her eyes got a little dewy as she said, “We almost lost him.”

She hurriedly went on to say that he and a handful of fellow soldiers had been in a remote outpost that was suddenly attacked by a much larger force of Taliban fighters. While in a gun battle, her grandson had his hand on his ammo magazine when it was hit by a bullet. In that split second he threw the magazine and it exploded.

My friend explained that she’d gotten this story from her grandson’s wife who lives on the West Coast. Yet even without the chance to ask her grandson any questions, one wonderful detail came through the grapevine loud and clear. Her grandson attributes his miraculous survival to God.

I’ve been praying for this young soldier for 3 years, ever since he entered the service to find a way to make a difference in his own life and in the world. There’s a maple tree on my prayer walk that belongs to this young soldier who’s really our young soldier because he’s serving us all. Of course our young soldier doesn’t really own the tree in my neighborhood. I just decided to adopt the tree as a signpost, as a place to remember to pray for him as I walk by every day.

One fall day a few years ago I picked up a red fall leaf and pressed it into my Bible as a prayer reminder when our young soldier finished basic training and deployed to Iraq. During the winter it was dark in the mornings and the tree was bare, but I’d picked the tree well because it was right under a street light and I could always see it. One day several of his comrades were killed in the line of duty. I prayed for God’s help and comfort for our young soldier. I’m sure it must have been hard, but he continued to serve faithfully.

Then there were times of thanksgiving for the good news by the prayer tree for our young solider. He came home safe and sound from Iraq, more mature and wiser than ever. He met a lovely young woman. They married and welcomed into the world the cutest baby you’ve ever seen.

Then this past summer it was back to vigilant prayer work for our young solider as he deployed again, this time to Afghanistan. Again prayers under the tree were for his safety and now also for strength and support for his wife and little one.

As many of you know, our own son Chris also served in the U.S. Army. He’s out now and doing well. While in, he deployed to both Afghanistan and Iraq. We were worried, but we were able to get through because we were the recipients of innumerable prayers. No prayer is ever too small when your own young soldier son or daughter is in harm’s way.

And so on Sunday, even though we were in a busy church hallway, I stepped aside with my friend and we joined hands and bowed our heads and I said a prayer of thanksgiving to God right there on the spot for hearing our prayers for our young soldier.

Like Bamboo Growing in Coastal South Carolina

October 6th, 2009

This past weekend Gordon went in with a chain saw to do battle with a thick stand of bamboo at our beach house on Hilton Head, S.C. Let me begin with a disclaimer that we weren’t the ones foolish enough to plant this nuisance. Blame that on a former owner.

Sure, it’s pretty green stuff and gives a tropical get-away feel to the back yard. But it grows like crazy in the long growing season in the maritime forest ecosystem on Southern sea islands.

We don’t mind it when it stays about 15 feet tall. But a few renegade stalks always decide to shoot for the stars. Why not 20 feet? Why not 30? They get tangled up in the oak trees and get unstable and then flop over into our pool. And then there’s the thicket issue. A raccoon once died in there, probably trying to find his way out. We didn’t know it until the smell got really compelling. And then there’s the whole invasive issue. Bamboo puts out wandering shoots capable of taking over the whole yard. I’ve read that the only way to keep it contained is to bury a deep cement wall all around it underground.

So this weekend I stood on the back deck while Gordon ventured into our private jungle and started shaking stalks to identify which ones were the towering, pool-flopping ones. When he shook the right ones, I yelled and he marked the stalks with duct tape. (Make a note if you’re a guy collecting ideas on how to use duct tape.) Then Gordon revved his chain saw and cut the stalks. But they didn’t fall. Nope. Too tightly packed in the thicket. We had to pull and yank like the dickens to untangle the cut stalks and get them out.

Some of the stalks were as big around as my arm. We went to work clipping off the foliage. I started thinking that Robinson Crusoe could have made a good raft out of that big fat bamboo. Suddenly the bamboo didn’t look like such a nuisance after all. You could probably make something out of it, at the very least tomato stakes to use back home in Atlanta. So we laid a stack of long, green bamboo poles in the woods to dry out.

Gordon found a use for one pole right away. Earlier he had bumped his head on a low hanging oak branch he didn’t want to cut. So he took one of the fattest bamboo poles, drove a short pipe into the sand, stuck the bamboo hollow center over the pipe and propped the pole under the branch. He then drilled a hole through the top of bamboo and fed a wire through to attach it to the branch. Presto! Low hanging branch solved.

Today when people talk about “going green” bamboo is a true media darling. They call it a renewable resource because it grows so fast. You find it stubbornly creeping its way into flooring, into bed sheets and even into clothes.

So I’ve changed my mind about bamboo. In fact, if Jesus was around bamboo, he probably might have said, “The Kingdom of Heaven is like a stand of bamboo. It grows tenaciously and abundantly and soon the whole earth is covered with it.” Renewable. Inexhaustible. Growing. The perfect “green” words to pray for the kind of evergreen spiritual life I want to live.

Our private back yard jungle

Our private back yard jungle