A young man recently wrote me a long letter telling me that he’d met a woman who seemed like “the one.â€Â  The young man had been disappointed in love many times before and I read between the lines that he was hoping God would give him some indication which direction his new relationship was going.
           I’ll begin by saying that I met my husband Gordon at age 19 and we were married after my sophomore year of college and we’ve been married for 34 years. So I personally have never gone through a long search for a spouse. However when I wrote my first book Ready, Set…Wait I discovered from reader response that one of the most agonizing waiting periods of life is when you’re single because of circumstances beyond your control, not by choice.
           In the Personal Prayer Power videos in lesson 4 on Prayer and Divine Intervention, I tell how a combination of prayer and small circumstances led me to meet and marry my husband, Gordon. After thinking about what I might write back to the young man seeking guidance about finding “the one†I realized that patterns of divine intervention when it comes to finding spouses can only be seen in retrospect. What makes each other “the one” happens over many years of faithful relationship building before and after marriage.Â
           One summer when our son Chris was in college he met a girl in
I guess what I’m saying is that I don’t think that God gives us a plainly marked roadmap when it comes to love. I believe it’s a step by step journey just as all of life is. That’s why I believe very strongly in developing the kind of interactive prayer life and relationship with God where we become comfortable hearing the small quiet directions He gives us one day at a time.
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